“I’m still in love with my ex.” Is this you? This is not a comfortable position to be in, especially if your ex is already in another relationship, or has made it very clear to you that he or she no longer wants you to be a part of his or her life. There are basically two routes you can take if you are still in love with your ex — you can try to forget him or her, and to move on with your life, or you can try to get him or her back. There is really no right or wrong to this–either way might be the road for you. But in order to decide which path to take, and as part of the first phase of whatever direction you will go, you need to take a physical and mental break from your ex.
Unless you have to come into contact because of kids, work, or other obligations, make a break from your ex. The more you can stay away from your ex, the better. But if you must meet, or exchange words on the phone, email, etc., then limit it to whatever task you must accomplish, and be cordial and professional, as if you were in a business relationship. Use the rest of the time to concentrate on yourself.
Turn it into a sort of bootcamp in which you will everything to make yourself feel and look better. Make sure that when you leave the house, you are dressed in flattering clothes, and you do not look unkempt or sloppy. If you’re used to an unhealthy diet, it’s time to change that around too. Eating the right foods can make you feel calmer and happier, and make you look better. If you can’t get the right amount of vitamins and minerals from your everyday diet, take a Vitamin supplement which rounds things out. You’ll be amazed how much better you will feel in just a couple of weeks if you can stick to healthy eating. The next crucial element is sleep.
Not getting enough sleep has been linked to several disorders and conditions. It can also lead to overeating, depression, and just a general feel of not having control in your life. If you don’t get enough sleep, you will not make sound decisions. Incorporate a new social activity into your life. Besides just getting out with friends or attending family gatherings, try to get involved in some sort of activity that you haven’t had time to do until now, or take up a new hobby that you’ve always wanted to do.
The only social situation that is best to avoid is another relationship. If you jump into another relationship, it will negate the work that you are trying to accomplish on yourself. If you find that you are still thinking “I’m still in love with my ex”, then you can move to the next phase of getting him or her back.